Jane Terlizzi, CLC. Mom of 3 boys that I adore, Married to my high school sweetheart, resides in New Fairfield, Connecticut. I love Netflix, movies that make me cry and feel, listening and dancing to Indie Rock and 70's Disco. I also enjoy spicy snacks.
Hi There! I want to thank you for checking out my page and reading more about me. Let's dive in shall we. How should I write, this, how do I explain about me, to convince you this will be one of the greatest decisions you make to meet me. I am not full of myself. I just know my potential, talents, life experience, and my current practices. Life coaching is in my blood, my life's journey brought me here. This stay at home mom of 3 crazy boys who constantly make me come out of my comfort zone and hold me accountable. Attended Certified Life Coaching Institute and School of Achology with certification as a Professional Life Coach. I have worked under a talented Psychologist and Executive Coach Dr. Isaura Gonzalez,Psy.D for over a decade, which has given me the knowledge behind the power of this woman and this field.
I'm married to my high school sweetheart who works in Workforce Development and who has challenged me and loved me and grew with me throughout all the stages of our lives, and the moments of people being drawn to me and feel close to me very quickly. Every moment leading me to now has brought my passion to life. I am a coach, an exponential listener, creative thinker, writer,mom, wife, daughter,sister,friend, movie buff, indie music fanatic, and out of the box thinking kind of woman, and human. Did you know your brain doesn't full mature until age 24? It's kind of funny that is when my husband and I Got married. We were babies!! At the time you know marriage is forever, but you don't truly know until you are in it, and with kids, and then 3! It's not easy, and you put in the work, but the reward of the bond you have with a person you have all this history with is priceless. When I entered my 30's, I started to grow more within myself, untapped into an unused part of my brain if you will. Reflected on my past, my wrong doings, wrong doings done unto me, the sad and bad luck events, and of course the great memories to hold on to that goodness in life; . Ferris Bueller: Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it. It holds very true.
OK, let's dive into my past a bit, you don't want to hear how perfect I appear. My life as a mom in my 20's. I was overwhelmed. My parents and in-laws lived in Florida, so I never had help,without that constant support, it was super hard. Oh how I wish I had my parents, for a break, a talk, for company, and family BBQs! I also, was the first of my friends to have kids, and we then moved away from NY to CT. It was isolating and lonely. I started to feel bitter about my life, so this is my life now? Motherhood is damn hard, it's indescribable how tough it can be at times. Putting yourself second most moments of your day which then would turn to weeks, then months, then years. It made me grow resentful, and to my husband who gets to leave and have a life outside of this world. So I would feel entitled for more. I wanted a bigger house, a cleaner house, look better, feel better, go on vacations, and just want want want. And I just want it given to me. Nothing I have is good enough. I was stuck in this victim role which would then turn to impatience with everything around me. Also my body didn't feel like mine, I have 3 boys and they are 2 years apart. So each time I would get back to my body, boom pregnant again. The only escape I found was with a group of friends, but I still wasn't fulfilled. Sometimes it seemed like I was the only one who didn't have it together. Everyone else has the secret. I was just so in my damn head. I didn't know what to do. My husband had this job opportunity fall into his lap, one that would pay very well. BUT it would require him to travel. All I saw in my mind was money, so I told him he has to take it. Fast forward he accepted the job and was traveling, I was even more miserable. I missed my husband and best friend dearly, it was harder with the kids, and then the thought how dare I complain before? This is it, and you helped push this decision. I slowly started to take personal responsibility for my current life. It really opened my eyes, and it got me thinking of other actions that made me miserable at the end of the day. I started to learn to lean on me, if something needed to be done, I had to do it. No one else. Started from taking out the garbage cans down my mile long driveway every Tuesday, cleaning more and organizing, taking care of more errands (since my husband usually helped so much!). Through this time, I realized more and more, only I can make myself happy, it's my responsibility, no one else's. I have the control from my actions to my emotions. Just me. If I want the better things in life, what's stopping me from achieving it? It all started coming together, my body, feeling beautiful, laughing more , dating and loving my husband, gaining more understanding of my kids,deeper conversations with my true closer friends, setting goals each week to fill my schedule, making more play dates and connecting with more moms, and learning more about their life and past life. Observing more around me that a lot of moms can have a hectic life, hardships, tired, overwhelmed, and many husbands work late or travel too! The connection, and even though we are all different, the core of the mom, we are all the same.
Just that one step of questioning my behaviors. Was it easy? NO Is it easy now?HELL NO. But I am telling you, this freedom of thinking and understanding. It makes me the richest person in the world. And I want to share this with you.
We constantly change and evolve because that's what life and time does. But we can hold ourselves back, overthink, feel stuck in a loop, or just don't know what we want.
I was a quiet kid, and in turn I think I ingrained in my mindset to keep feelings to myself generally, and that muted my creative side. But NOW and the last 2 years I am speaking up more, sharing my thoughts, gaining the new confidence, started my own business with more knowledge from training on top of life experience. I am special in the way I operate, how I think, how I truly listen and hear people, how I see all perspectives, and the limits of a human being. I am Jane Terlizzi, I am a trained Life Coach.
Enough about me, I can write a novel and keep going, but this is about you. I want to meet you and hear your story. Let's create the new journey and your way of thinking towards life. 2020, times are getting tougher, busier, and we are expected to do it all, or pretend to because hello social media. Let's remove the negative thought of reaching out to me or looking for guidance. It shows you are growing and you need to keep up with yourself. Reach your true potential and your goals. I hope to meet you soon.